I Was Adopted From Korea — Here’s What It Was Like | Op-Docs

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  • Rob Shin
    Rob Shin  4 days back

    What an incredibly impactful and humbling video. Thank you for sharing your stories. Thank you for this piece.

    • Germ Antibody
      Germ Antibody  6 days back

      3:56 *hugs*

      • jessica ArmyBlink
        jessica ArmyBlink  7 days back

        I am not Korean
        I am Black born and raised in Germany but this really touched me I feel bad for all adoptess
        I personally don't know how it feels like to leave without your birthparent
        😭😭😭
        I just hope one day this stops and koreans learn to embrace single parents most especially mom's

        • poohbear
          poohbear  1 weeks back

          I just want to embrace all of them😢

          • WutDaFreakNutz
            WutDaFreakNutz  2 weeks back

            I'm a Korean American and I had no idea this happened. Yes, I've heard of Korean babies being adopted in the US, but didn't know the reasons behind it - mainly due to prostitution and American soldiers. But worse than that is the pain and sadness that these adoptees live with everyday. God Bless all.

            • Sweetly creeping in
              Sweetly creeping in  2 weeks back

              "...To be relinquished..." 😥

              • Sarah Chang
                Sarah Chang  3 weeks back

                The mother who said " I don't know who you are " is cold. She's hurting her daughter again.

                • Enrique Thompson
                  Enrique Thompson  4 weeks back

                  Wow

                  • Ireneu Geba
                    Ireneu Geba  4 weeks back

                    This is similar to the experience of the African diaspora.

                    • Jack Kim
                      Jack Kim  4 weeks back

                      "But at the end of the day, I appreciated what he did." <- this kinda explains pretty much everything

                      • Keita Foxy
                        Keita Foxy  4 weeks back

                        An ending to a short story about one baby, who was found bundled on a doorstep, a long time ago. She returns for the first time, searching for the truth.

                        ...as I looked ahead to where the man was pointing across the road, I shook my head questioningly “surely, not in a lorry...” I thought dreadfully. I hesitated looking back at him. He inched forward, his arm stretched, pointing and gesturing with his head. Turning my head to the direction, my eyes followed the load that was now trailing away and suddenly staring back at me, grey stone, which emerged at the tail-end of the squealing metal.

                        Two steps, one long and one gaping where a giant rodent had taken its mouthful. A dull red door with blue and gold letters stood at the top. I watched my hair ever so gracefully, swish from my face as the cars were passing. The distance ahead was closing in as I moved forward, I could not tell however, where my feet had been. The weight of the air inside my chest is to blame perhaps? The flat of my palms whitened, breaking the fall as I steadied against the concrete. “Child” said the man “are you alright?”
                        “I’ve found a stronghold” I said clenching, “..I’m alright now”.

                        ——— E N D

                        I know what it’s like to feel lost, feel like you’ve been searching for ages. I wrote this short story, for anyone who has ever felt the pain of abandonment. I hope someday they can find the answers to their questions, I pray I can too.

                        • jezebel324
                          jezebel324  4 weeks back

                          Pain, so much pain. But bittersweet. I’m grateful for the people that love these children, and that they could tell their stories.

                          • Jackie
                            Jackie  1 months back

                            I really appreciate this video very much as an adoptee. Most representations of adoptees focus on how lucky and how grateful we should be. While we can certainly be happy and grateful in our lives, there is also signifivant heartbreak, trauma and loss. I especially appreciated how the mixed race older women explained and approached the topic. Thank you very much to the New York Times and wish healing and happiness for all in the video.

                            • Trevor Varga
                              Trevor Varga  1 months back

                              I’m a Korean adoptee, thank you NYT for producing this. I couldn’t explain how being adopted effects me to my friends, so now I just share this video. I went to Korea in 2017, and I wasn’t going to initiate a search for my birth family. I ended up staying in hapjeong which is very close to hongdae where travel websites said I should stay. What I didn’t know was Holts headquarters was in hapjeong. I walked up to the office building and found this very nice Korean security guard. I had little information but he could understand my heart, we both cried and he hugged me, held my hand, wished me luck, and pointed me to the right location. In 2017 my birth mother told me she couldn’t accept me, and that she had a new family. In 2019 my birth mother told her new husband about me. I really felt sad for the women who was left as a baby. But thanks to her I made the decision to write back.

                              • Aurora More
                                Aurora More  1 months back

                                I like the older woman..she almost looks like a native american

                                • erin mok
                                  erin mok  1 months back

                                  Thank you for making this video

                                  • John McKay
                                    John McKay  1 months back

                                    This sounds like human trafficing?

                                    • bakarangerpinku
                                      bakarangerpinku  1 months back

                                      Something I don’t understand: that Asian guy who grew up in Milwaukee said that he never experienced any kind of racism or inequality like that, but my cousin who is a 1/4 Japanese says that people are so oppressed by white people there.
                                      Honestly Kyle Myre, I think you’re full of 💩.
                                      Nobody’s oppressed, you just like the applause of men. Such an edge lord. I hope you’re happy Kyle. You helped fuel racial tension that didn’t exist.
                                      Don’t worry. He legally changed his name to something less white and more like 100% African sounding. And that’s how you’ll know him. White dude with name that doesn’t match face lol.

                                      • Maria Fletcher
                                        Maria Fletcher  1 months back

                                        I'm a mixed race and when she said "human refuse" it made me cry.

                                        • Tammy J
                                          Tammy J  1 months back

                                          wow that was tough to watch...

                                          • Yuchae Lee
                                            Yuchae Lee  1 months back

                                            Thank you so so much for sharing your stories.

                                            • BIttah Hunnie
                                              BIttah Hunnie  1 months back

                                              I can't even watch... as a POC, former child, mother... this hurt my heart... The parents have to do better regarding culture. Educate yourself and your child so that they know who they are and can love themselves.

                                              • blueyomogi
                                                blueyomogi  1 months back

                                                ...and how beautiful and eloquent each of these people are, how poignant their stories.

                                                • blueyomogi
                                                  blueyomogi  1 months back

                                                  My family has been in the States since the late 1890s and I continued to be asked where I was from. Racial identity needs to be explained in the U.S. - I can't imagine how lonely it must feel from some adoptees who have been removed from the cultural context that makes them a part (not apart) from the norm. Only after living out of the U.S. for the past two and a half years, have I understood how race conscious our culture is and how limited opportunities in my life actually were because of it.

                                                  • Kaleah Collins
                                                    Kaleah Collins  1 months back

                                                    Korea does not want it known that they profit heavily from the deportation or adoption of the millions of children from their country they profited from the US in particular for that

                                                    • Kaleah Collins
                                                      Kaleah Collins  1 months back

                                                      I feel you guys should make out on community and having a Melting Pot just like you are yeah I can indulge in your Korean ancestry but mix it with ya places of residence

                                                      • Kaleah Collins
                                                        Kaleah Collins  1 months back

                                                        Unfortunately a lot of y'all records was destroyed so you couldn't find your birth parents unless your birth parents left something for you but that was also told to them it wouldn't be smart to do because it would cause Strife with the new families so a lot of families that wanted to leave a lot of mothers that wanted to leave things couldn't because they was told not to I believe that she wasn't left alone that day at 3 days old I believe her mother try very hard to stay with her and wanted to keep her but they told her it would be best for her to leave her behind that she will find a better life elsewhere they only tell you these things so y'all wouldn't search in Yahoo and digging Yahoo and find the truth about the Korean government and what they did you guys are not horrible people your mother's wasn't s**** home some fell in love and some fell on Hard Times they did what they did because they was told that she would have a better life that way Korea wanted to hide their own shame let's not forget about the millions of 1/2 treated Chinese children that was born to during World War II when Korea actually did send women to Japan besides them that they stole

                                                        • Kaleah Collins
                                                          Kaleah Collins  1 months back

                                                          Actually a lot of white servicemen didn't leave their children behind remember this is the 50s but in retrospect a lot of black soldiers wanted to take their children home and couldn't because it was the fifties and segregation laws many u.s. black service wanted to marry their Korean girlfriends 4 Filipino girlfriends and was denied these things just like in World War II with all the mixed breed German Irish English French children black soldiers was not allowed to take home their wives and children but they was told that they was unwarranted so they can give their children up so this was not the case it was pretty much forced upon them to leave y'all behind at least I'm speaking for the black soldiers lady I would like to tell you I would like to think that your mother wasn't a prostitute that she was a young lady who probably did work on the base maybe doing clerical work that she made a mistake and fell in love with a GI who she thought was going to marry her but he wasn't I would like to think that your mother did try to keep you as long as she could but because of the shame that her community put her through for having a mixed breed child she had to do the only thing that she could to save you unfortunately even if they wasn't prostitute they were still labeled as prostitute just for being with US servicemen at that time

                                                          • Kaleah Collins
                                                            Kaleah Collins  1 months back

                                                            Two of them are half breeds 1 is half Korean half white that's the lady and the other is half Korean half black that's the dude so you can tell that they original birth fathers was probably US servicemen during the Korean War ordering Vietnam

                                                            • Kaleah Collins
                                                              Kaleah Collins  1 months back

                                                              Then let's talk about how Korea refuse to let black servicemen take home their children just for them to be adopted by all this

                                                              • Kaleah Collins
                                                                Kaleah Collins  1 months back

                                                                Dude at least u got out what about those who couldnt.

                                                                • Rose Marry
                                                                  Rose Marry  1 months back

                                                                  I knew the older lady is mixed with Caucasian and korean.

                                                                  • katelyn Windels
                                                                    katelyn Windels  1 months back

                                                                    I can’t even imagine growing up with so many unanswered questions and so much self conflict as these people did. This sounds so hard.

                                                                    • v
                                                                      v  1 months back

                                                                      This is one of the best videos I’ve ever seen on NYT- excellent job.

                                                                      • Yura Uro
                                                                        Yura Uro  1 months back

                                                                        06:48 she should consider acting.

                                                                        Her voice omg wowww

                                                                        • videom
                                                                          videom  1 months back

                                                                          가슴 아픕니다. 깊은 위로를 드립니다.

                                                                          • 王一帆
                                                                            王一帆  1 months back

                                                                            被遗弃的小孩子永远是好可怜的。They were poor children because they were abandoned. But they were lucky to have some great family to accept them as new born children. I appreciate what the adopting families have done. The world should be as beautiful as an adoption is .

                                                                            • Rich As F*ck
                                                                              Rich As F*ck  1 months back

                                                                              I don't know if i want to click like or dislike on this video!! This is so sad to watch as a Korean😔😔

                                                                              • Noplay
                                                                                Noplay  1 months back

                                                                                this is how Koreans look, not those number 1,2,3 plastic modes.

                                                                                • donna Kim
                                                                                  donna Kim  1 months back

                                                                                  I feel like here in korea people should adopt children here more instead of sending the children off to other countries. I feel like if more people here loved them enough that there would be less people like this that were in pain like this.

                                                                                  • 김지윤
                                                                                    김지윤  1 months back

                                                                                    다들 얼마나 외롭고 힘든 시기를 보냈을까 생각하니 마음이 아픕니다~직접 겪지 않으면 헤아리기 어렵겠지요~견뎌주시고 극복해주셔서 감사합니다~평안과 행복이 가득하길 기원합니다

                                                                                    • 동원땀띠
                                                                                      동원땀띠  1 months back

                                                                                      9:41 I can’t even imagine how lonely she must have felt there.. she deserves so much love..

                                                                                      • You are King
                                                                                        You are King  1 months back

                                                                                        정말 웃긴건 90년대 우리나라가 어느정도 중진국 반열에 들어섰을때도 입양을 보낸거..

                                                                                        • popcornplaya247
                                                                                          popcornplaya247  1 months back

                                                                                          At least they didn’t get deported back to South Korea
                                                                                          But some them did get deported and that’s unfortunate and sad and despicable.
                                                                                          The U.S promised them and their adopted parents that they would have citizenship or asylum or something like that and that didn’t happen for the unfortunate individuals that got deported back! Can u imagine going back to the country u came from not knowing anything about it not even knowing the language that horrible!!!

                                                                                          • Junghoon Park
                                                                                            Junghoon Park  1 months back

                                                                                            As a Korean and a father of child, I absolutely am able to feel how they were frightened by changing their circumstances. Until recently, Koreans and Korean government have attempted not to focus on this issue cuz they didn't want to show off a dark side of development in Korea. But now it is time to frankly reconsider and examine why there were so many Korean children who could not assisted by any agent and why they had to be adopted. Thank you guys. You are heroes.

                                                                                            • Tristan Kayembe
                                                                                              Tristan Kayembe  1 months back

                                                                                              A lot of issues with internationally countries adoption is the people adopting these children aren’t educated on the culture or social environment these kids are from and how that would impact the kids when they are brought to the states especially in places that are predominantly of different ethnicities. I feel they need to remind these children that they are loved and that they are beautiful no matter what people tell them it’s cliche but necessary

                                                                                              • Joshie Washie
                                                                                                Joshie Washie  1 months back

                                                                                                As a Korean adoptee from the 80s, this really hit home for me. Thank you NYT for sharing this with me.

                                                                                                • Joy Tab
                                                                                                  Joy Tab  1 months back

                                                                                                  I was adopted too. I know how you feel. Chin up guys!