How I Met My Abusive (ex) Boyfriend


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  • illymation
    illymation   1 years back


    Hey guys! Thank you for making it through that video and hearing my story on this. Considering this content and the kind of awful people it can attract, I wanna start something good in my comments section with your help! *If you see a comment that’s super kind, helpful, anything awesome, comment on that comment with a heart ❤️ emoji.* That way, youtube will push it to the top. If enough people give love to one another, maybe we can drown out the hate. 😄

    I expect there will be a lot of valid questions. A lot of those I can assure you I’ll get to in the next videos. But here are some answers for now.

    *Why did you make this video? It’s [insert your opinion here]*

    If I have a platform, if I have a voice, if people are watching and listening to me, I want to use this channel to highlight the things I wish I knew to avoid when I was your age. I want to warn others against awful people like the guy in this video. Know the red flags. Listen to your friends and family. It really can happen to anyone.

    *“Why wait? Quit cliffhanging! Tell us everything!”*

    This is already a 10 minute video that took over a month to do! I’m also in college full time. I reaaaallly wanted to do a tell-all, believe me. There’s just so much to tell, and I am ITCHING to get this done.

    *“Why didn’t you go to the police?”*

    1. You can’t call the cops on someone being mean to you on the internet.
    2. *I did!* (I’ll get into that in the next video) but understand, I, the detective, my lawyer, we all need to be able to prove who sent the messages. The messages themselves aren’t enough. If brought to court, he could argue “oh my sister sent that not me” and... we can’t prove otherwise. And if you don’t believe this, idk what to tell you. I went to the police and this is what they told me.
    3. *We tried* proving otherwise by getting his confession, and he denied it all of course. He never thought he did anything wrong in the first place.
    4. Even though he coerced me into sending pictures, I could still go to jail for “soliciting” CP. Again, we can’t prove HE coerced me. But we can prove that’s me who sent them. “WAIT THATS NOT FAIR—!” Yup. Even though I was coerced, I was pressured, I was threatened... I did something that can be proven, and he did something that can’t be proven. So going to court could possibly get ME jailed. This is what people mean when they say “the system protects criminals.” 🙃

    *”Why didn’t you include the messages where [this this that that whatever]”*

    I just don’t have the messages. Here’s the approximate breakdown of our conversation history:
    - 80% Skype
    - Of that 80%, half was talking out loud (therefore no paper trail)
    - Blocking people on Skype in 2015 deletes your conversation history. I know there’s a way to mine it out of your computer somehow, but I didn’t know this back then, and I no longer own that computer.
    - 10% texting (This happened in 2015. It is 2018. I’ve gone through 2 new phones, one of which was stolen fml)
    - 10% other - google hangouts, Facebook, tumblr, etc.

    *”This happens to men/boys too.”*

    Yeah, and water is wet. Me talking about my experiences doesn’t negate others. *The only story I can tell is my own.* Why would I talk about someone else, or I guess pretend to be a boy and tell this story, if that’s what you want? I don’t know that experience or how it feels. I only know mine, and that’s why I shared it. The links I’ve provided are inclusive of all people and children, and some show breakdowns by gender. *If you’re concerned about other people and their stories, PLEASE go find them and support them.* Don’t sit in my comments section telling me to do that. They obviously need YOUR help if you want to give that. *Claiming I’m “ignoring” others by just telling my story is ignorant and a waste of the kind heart you claim to have.*

    *“Did he do anything worse?”*

    Unfortunately yes. Statutory r***. And I went to the police about it. We tried getting security camera footage but the place where it happened didn’t have cameras installed until a year after the incident took place. All we could try to pin him on was coercion to entice, but again, we couldn’t get him to confess. So, he got away with it.

    *”you’re lying / you’re doing this for attention / this is fake / that’s photoshopped / if this really happened you’d / etc”*

    Did you know 2% of American adults think the Earth is flat? With a population of 326,766,748, that’s 6.5 million dumbasses walking amongst us. With numbers like that, who am I to expect anyone watching this video to believe anything concrete?

    After getting out of this relationship, I was diagnosed with major depression, anxiety, I’ve struggled with self harm since being with him and I am prone to relapsing, and I have had symptoms of PTSD (recurring vivid nightmares, flashbacks, irrational fears). Making this video put me in an awful place mentally for a month or so, which I anticipated and dealt with along the way. I do not have the emotional energy or even a care in the world to “debate” you in the comment section. But go off, more comments actually benefits my channel. (Thanks for your support! 😊😊😊😊)

    Thank you guys so much and let me know if you’d like to see part two or something a little more light hearted.

    • Mossimo Reynolds
      Mossimo Reynolds  2 weeks back

      I have a question. Have you seen other YouTube animators with other tragic problems?

    • Randy Richmond III
      Randy Richmond III  3 weeks back

      @HolsappleArt Studios it takes a real man to do what you did

    • Talia R Lahn
      Talia R Lahn  3 weeks back

      hey illy, I hate to bother you, and I completely believe you, but could you explain how Haris was 21 when you were 15 when you said at the beginning of the video you said you were 13 when he was 17? Sorry just as a perfectionist that confused me. I promise I believe you, and I'm sure there's an explanation for it because as a person who also struggled with abuse I have some memory loss from that time. but if you or someone else could explain I would greatly appreciate it

    • Puppy Gamer Entertainment
      Puppy Gamer Entertainment  2 months back

      Who is this guy?

    • dianaluna25
      dianaluna25  5 months back

      Illy, you are one brave lady as I mentioned on another video comment page.

      One question - a bit random. Who is your blue Chaos character, the one that leaps at you at the beginning? He or she's a curious fellow!

  • The Vortex
    The Vortex  1 hours back

    I wouldn't be surprised if Harris is watching this video

    • Doorak
      Doorak  3 hours back

      Damn, this hits so close to home.

      • Gabriely Oliveira
        Gabriely Oliveira  4 hours back

        Aaaa im so curious about the third paaaart

        • Minerva Heathers
          Minerva Heathers  7 hours back

          I always stay up until 4 or i don't sleep at all 😅😂

          • badprince 13.5
            badprince 13.5  9 hours back

            Send me his address I will beat the living hell out of him with a baseball bat

            • Anshul subedi
              Anshul subedi  10 hours back

              have you seen you ex if not you are a racist because you think he is black

              • YEET
                YEET  20 hours back

                I thought it was i love you animations 💀

                • God child
                  God child  21 hours back

                  I dealt with the same issue but he is 1 year younger than me so i started panicking and told my bestfriend about because he was using the suicide threat on me so thats when i told my best friend everything. I tried calming him down but he was very controlling and has anger issues so later on my bestfriend told me to block him on every social media i have with him, of course i was terrified but i some how did it and still scared about him coming for me .. .

                  • Temmoo
                    Temmoo  1 days back

                    Didn't someone die in a version of Romeo and Juliet
                    And wasn't there a pedo in there too?

                    • IAintReal N
                      IAintReal N  1 days back

                      I'm 11 and I say "Screw relationship I'm gonna wait until I'm 30 or 27"

                      • CorgiArtsi
                        CorgiArtsi  1 days back

                        My ex was so much like this. He always made me feel crazy and like I was ALWAYS wrong, I would tell him how I was feeling and how it was affecting me and he’d twist my words and make himself the victim. He was HUGE for gaslighting.
                        I’m so sorry you went through all this. You didn’t deserve that torture!

                        • Mya Principe
                          Mya Principe  2 days back

                          i can relate to this

                          • Gabriel Quillao
                            Gabriel Quillao  2 days back

                            Age is a number me: and so are you days FBI OPEN UP

                            • Bengamer925 !
                              Bengamer925 !  2 days back

                              I know your secret...

                              Your a GREG

                              • Dragon Knight vlogs
                                Dragon Knight vlogs  2 days back

                                So *smack's lips* i went through this and i am 11 on istagram. So ..... Its herd i hear ya gurl

                                • Cailyn Vries
                                  Cailyn Vries  2 days back

                                  Darling I am so sorry! This is awful! I am so sorry for you! I hope your doing better! I

                                  • LpsGamer FurryGamer
                                    LpsGamer FurryGamer  2 days back

                                    ...SHES A FURRY! ALL FURRYS LIKE KOVU AND LION KING! (Don't worry am furry to)

                                    • Fidda 300
                                      Fidda 300  2 days back

                                      OMG I can’t believe that happened to you I’m so sorry for you the most that happened to me was like bullying

                                      • Jason Taub
                                        Jason Taub  2 days back

                                        "f**k your privacy" my friend and I :gives standing ovation

                                        • RandomBLX !
                                          RandomBLX !  2 days back

                                          That has happened to me

                                          • The real Sans
                                            The real Sans  2 days back

                                            FUK YA PRIVICY

                                            • Laura Winer
                                              Laura Winer  3 days back

                                              I evryone reading this comment if this happens to you call the police

                                              • Maple Syroof
                                                Maple Syroof  3 days back

                                                Damn what a douche. Threatening suicide cause someone else just wants to live their life is such a prick move

                                                • Soul 303
                                                  Soul 303  3 days back

                                                  Sr.Pelo :v

                                                  • gurjeev the undead
                                                    gurjeev the undead  3 days back

                                                    Im realizing so much shit in my life right now it's fucked

                                                    • Flanguni
                                                      Flanguni  3 days back

                                                      HE INVADED MY 15 YEAR OLD BODY

                                                      FrICk HISs PRiVaCy
                                                      I don’t think I’ve ever laughed so hard

                                                      • brOKen Girl
                                                        brOKen Girl  3 days back

                                                        I had a guy who did this to me... But thank the lord he didn't make me send nudes.

                                                        • Un Queso
                                                          Un Queso  3 days back

                                                          Hello i don't know what to say i'm confused and it's normal be confused if You are 11 years old i know how to be safe in this plataform and others but if i was You i would have so much pressure that I couldn't stand it and leave all behind (sorry if You can't read it but i'm not inglish)good night after noon or day goodbye

                                                          • Giana Lee
                                                            Giana Lee  3 days back

                                                            This is what happened to me and no one knows and it was just like it I met him gaming and he just broke me down then I stop texting him.

                                                            • Rob DeHaan
                                                              Rob DeHaan  3 days back

                                                              most surprising dating series

                                                              me while waching this:........

                                                              • Colaine Aki
                                                                Colaine Aki  3 days back

                                                                THATS AGAINST THE LORD!

                                                                • Happy Otter :o
                                                                  Happy Otter :o  3 days back

                                                                  6:20 what a sick perverted weeb

                                                                  • Hudson Efferson
                                                                    Hudson Efferson  4 days back

                                                                    You should have told him frick you I will leave you

                                                                    • No One Asked But Don't Care

                                                                      Eugene pulled up with the white van crew pulled up
                                                                      she hi
                                                                      he says O HELLO THERE LITTLE GIRL
                                                                      she says wait what
                                                                      he says come inside my van it has FREE CANDY
                                                                      she says wait what no
                                                                      And was never seen again
                                                                      Edit mans a early recruit of the white van crew

                                                                      • Scizzor Cut
                                                                        Scizzor Cut  4 days back


                                                                        • Ja boi Deku
                                                                          Ja boi Deku  4 days back

                                                                          I wonder if she still intends on making the third part? It's understandable if she changed her mind, just curious.

                                                                          • Kater Tolvad
                                                                            Kater Tolvad  4 days back

                                                                            Age is only just a number for consenting adults. Spare the children!!!

                                                                            • Comical Dingus
                                                                              Comical Dingus  4 days back

                                                                              Harris : I'm gonna kill myself
                                                                              Me : Do a flip!

                                                                              • Elaina Hess
                                                                                Elaina Hess  4 days back

                                                                                IM HERE FOR THE CHAOS

                                                                                • Lyla MAγ
                                                                                  Lyla MAγ  4 days back

                                                                                  I love you your a talented girl I can’t believe that some on would do that to a beautiful sweet girl like you ❤️

                                                                                  • The Dark Avenger
                                                                                    The Dark Avenger  4 days back

                                                                                    If I ever saw him I would beat him to an actual pulp

                                                                                    • Ëlîaš
                                                                                      Ëlîaš  4 days back

                                                                                      Pedo: “age is just a number”

                                                                                      Me: prison is just a place ;)

                                                                                      • lolsterv
                                                                                        lolsterv  5 days back

                                                                                        This story made me cry 😭😭😭

                                                                                        • lolsterv
                                                                                          lolsterv  5 days back

                                                                                          I hope he is in jail

                                                                                          • Bethany Burgess
                                                                                            Bethany Burgess  5 days back

                                                                                            My sister thought up the funniest thing when she saw this! She heard the name "Haris" as "Harrass"!!! 😂😂😂😂 Gosh, I love that kid! And you too, illy!❤

                                                                                            • Happy Cat!
                                                                                              Happy Cat!  5 days back

                                                                                              Her:just like all yall watching

                                                                                              Me:I'm nine :^

                                                                                              • T.A.C
                                                                                                T.A.C  5 days back

                                                                                                I wonder your search history from those two searches 🤔